Pastor Art Azurdia preaching part 14 of "Sexuality Redeemed" from The Song Of Solomon 5:9-6:3.
We see now that the desires of spouses do not always synchronize. There are now ewo lonely people struggling to reach each other, to regain intimacy. In this section intimacy is questioned and later strengthened primarily through the woman's rekindled affections at the end of her self centeredness.
The key ingredient to a great sex life east of Eden is having the disposition of self denial, regarding your spouse as more important than yourself and living sacrificially to serve your spouse. This can only be done by allowing yourself to be mastered by the cross—the ultimate place of self denial. Your marriage will succeed to the extent that all of it resembles a crucifixion.